Making memory's

[Kent]

Hi all this is not about detecting its about my child hood friend his name is David Hopwood we have been friends for 34 years and he has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer he has kidney cancer that has spread to his lymph nodes the doctors have said they cant operate as he would not survive the procedure all they can do is make him comfortable with drugs he is only 38 and has a 15 yr old son so i am appealing to all on the site who has had to cope or deal with a situation like this to please donate anything they can as to be able to give him some last memory's with his son the link is www.gofundme.com/dave-josh-hopwood to anybody that donates thank you very much. 

[wet feet again]

Hope things are made a little easier for your mate very sad

[sinky]

What a sad story  god bless your friend and you for being a good friend to him  sinky .

[hotmill]

That's awful Ken, really sad. As I'm dealing with cancer myself at the moment I know what the guy and his family and friends must be going through, luckily with my cancer I had early signs so they were able to catch it early to prevent it from getting too advanced and hopefully with the treatment I'm getting I'll keep it manageable for the foreseeable future.

I'll have a look at the link later and make a donation mate. Nothing anybody can say is going to offer much comfort to any of you at the moment, awful disease that doesn't discriminate, you can be young and as fit as a marathon runner and still get it, truly awful.

[Resurgam]

                              Sorry to hear your news Ken; it is a very difficult time for all concerned. I have lost a number of friends to big "C" and each loss brings it's own pains. When my father-in-law was diagnosed with incurable cancer, we took him and mum in with us and we all nursed him through it, from diagnosis to his final breath. Will is correct in saying that there is an awful lot of it about and I can't help wondering if the proliferation of the disease may be down to the large increase in electromagnetic fields that surround us in our modern life.

                              I just got back from hospital on Wednesday, after undergoing investigatory sinus surgery and am now awaiting the biopsy results; for which I return to hospital in three weeks time. 

[roaljodaka]

one word Chernobyl!!!

[hotmill]

one word Chernobyl!!!

Probably got something to do with it.

[Resurgam]

                                             And what about the Welsh nuclear power station? Strange that the area around that got higher contamination than a lot of other areas! Perhaps they also had leaks long before the Russian one.

                                            The chemical industry also has a lot to answer for. Workers in rubber companies suffered bladder cancer, vinyl chloride monomer workers finished up with liver cancer, and those working on the weed killer Paraquat developed skin cancer; to name but a few.   

[roaljodaka]

my grandmothers sister was a midwife around the time of the disaster and was told to tell all new mothers not to give fresh milk to the babies or something like that, will have to ask my mother.

[Resurgam]

                   Getting back on thread now; one of the best gifts that you can give to your friend and his family will be a listening and attentive ear. Don't be afraid of silences and don't forget the youngsters that are involved in the situation. Some years after the loss of my father-in-law, my young daughter said that she felt  that she had been left out of the situation. Part of our problem was that my mother-in-law, my wife, and myself, were so engrossed in nursing and caring for Noel in his passing, that we forgot to keep our daughter closely involved. I suppose that we thought that we were protecting her from the situation.

                  Hopefully your friend will actually respond to medical treatment and will live more years than the medical men anticipate; after all, the age of miracles is not yet over. When a close friend and neighbour died of prostate cancer, I missed the opportunity to say thank you for his many hours of music tuition that he freely gave to both of our children. But whilst sitting with my oldest brother, when he took his last breaths, I thanked him for his many kindnesses and the care that he showed myself and my younger brother over many years.

                  

                  

[Dryland]

Thats really sad news Ken, I went through the same thing a few years ago. I was diagnosed with a tumour the size of a small
orange in my left kidney. Thank God although I had to have the kidney removed, the tumour was benign and was contained .